Dr. Ankenman calls the work substitute defect a character disorder because it mistakes work for love. The work substitute lacks emotional love for his family and others because he thinks going to work to provide for the family is enough. His wife feels very unloved. The diffuse love defect describes the person who can act loving to any stranger for a short time, but is unable to build deeply in one relationship. Many males struggle with both habits. The idea of substituting activity for love is tutored into children. Instead children should learn to give sacrificial, emotional love.