Tribalistic Love t00445

Tribalism is Dr. Ankenman’s term for when life only works within a limited framework. He uses the analogy of a small tribal group in which a specific skill is needed for survival and therefore defines manhood. Although the skill may not represent true emotional maturity, it is a sufficient definition of maturity within its culture. … Check it Out

How to Develop a Sense of Security Within a Threatening Environment LTW-63

Children develop a sense of security when they feel loved by their parents. They thrive on routines, affection, and clear boundaries. Children need to know their parents are there for them, without being allowed to control the parents. This balance requires judgment calls and recognizing the cultural tendency toward individualism. They also need to know … Check it Out

Overcoming Guilt LTW-61

When someone feels guilty, Dr. Ankenman advises to discern what the guilt means emotionally to the person, rather than the details of what they feel guilty about. Once the person resolves the guilt emotionally, then they will be able to determine if they need to do anything externally about the situation. Guilt may be tied … Check it Out

What Makes a Person Change? The Love Bank LTW-31

Emotions are irrational, which isn’t bad unless they are out of control. Children raised in good homes feel loved by their parents, and this stimulates them to activity which develops the love bank. But simply doing isn’t enough to create emotional stability. Parents have to supply emotional love and discipline for children to develop a … Check it Out

The Frustrated Parent and the Strung-out Child m-14

Many Christian parents are more concerned with their children’s behavior than how their children experience a love relationship with Christ and other people. This accounts for much tension between parents and their teens. Dr. Ankenman says raising children to be individuals who maturely love others should be the supreme goal of parenting. This begins with … Check it Out