Interesting results are coming in from our informal parenting survey at CT.
Are we as parents able to address needs of our teenagers effectively? What do the teenagers think? As an exercise in parental trouble-shooting, read the answers and post your diagnosis.
Question #1) Your teenager comes drunk…what are you going to do?
- “I will refrain from shooting them.”
- “Not give him any consequences because he’s already feeling sick.”
- “…talk to them about the effects of alcohol.”
- “Tell him you have to be 21 to drink.”
- “I would listen to their story, talk to my spouse, then decide what to do.”
Question #2) Your teenager comes home with a “D” on the grade card – how would you handle it?
- “Ask him if he thinks he was doing his best work.”
Question #3) What are the indications your teenager is doing well (or poorly) ?
- “They tell me.”
Question #4) What does your teenager want from you?
- “They want guideliness, support and guidance.”
Question #5) Your youth-worker says your kid is not interested in the Lord. What do you do?
- “Pray with other Christians about it.”
- “Cry, cry, cry, get help, pray, pray, pray.”
- “Go to a parenting class.”
Question #6) What do you think your parent’s expectations are of you?
- “They want me to be everything they are. Just because we share genes doesn’t mean we share a brain.”
Question #7) Do you really talk to your parents?
- “No, because whatever it is is my fault. What’s the point if they don’t help me?”
Question #8) Can you trust your parents?
- “No, they invade my privacy and don’t leave me alone. They don’t trust me, and I don’t trust them.”
Question #9) Do your parents listen to you?
- “No. Brick walls listen better.”
Question #10) If you would change 2 thngs about your parents, what would they be?
- “I’m my own person. I’m not you. I make mistakes. So let me, and I’ll be OK.”
Question #11) What would you do differently?
- “My criticism will be constructive, and I’ll understand that my kid isn’t just like me.”
Question #12) What do you admire most about your parents?
- “Nothing. Well, they haven’t killed me yet.””
Question #13) What do you admire least?
- “They’re ignorant.”
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